Last Wednesday as a member of the gym was leaving I wished him a Happy Thanksgiving. His response was that he didn’t celebrate Thanksgiving, that we should give Thanks every day and not just on one “special” day of the year. He compared it to Valentines day, we should love every day not just one “special” day.
I have been thinking about this conversation all weekend. While part of me completely understands where he is coming from, part of me shouts “NO, IT IS NOT THE SAME AS VALENTINES DAY!”
For me, the difference comes down to the feeling, the family, the togetherness. Valentines Day is a day set up for retailers of America, Thanksgiving is largely overlooked by retailers. Why? Because other than the grocery store, there is no money to be made. I think this is one of the reasons my family loves Thanksgiving so much. We also love that it is a wonderful excuse to get family together, near and far.
My friend at the gym pointed out that we should be thankful for our family every day, see them, talk to them, e-mail them every day. I told him that as a family we did do at least one of those every day. But, Thanksgiving was a day to relive the all the wonderful things that had happened to us the last year and be with the ones we want to share it with and to be thankful they were there to share in that love for one more year. It was a day to say to our family “Thank you for being there when I needed you, Thank you for being there when I will need you, Thank you for being my family.” I told him as a family we are pretty vocal all year-long about our Thankfulness of those around us. I also pointed out to him that some have family that live out-of-state & if you are lucky enough you are able to go see them (or they come see you) for that nice long weekend.
I wasn’t able to change his mind, but the conversation stuck with me. I felt sad that he was unable to see a different side to the holiday. While I get the idea of what he has to say…my heart says I think we will have to agree to disagree on this holiday.